CREATING A LEGACY BIO part 2

A Legacy Bio should reveal who you really were to future generations. When you are filling in the blanks for this project, add some feelings and stories, hopes and dreams and let the people who read it know a little more than the who, what, where and how – give them some of the WHY. Remember, you don’t have to share this with anyone if you don’t want to and you can attach it to your will with specific instructions on when it will be available for reading, or not. So, let’s get personal:

If a stranger saw you on the street, what are your physical features and typical behavior that would make you memorable? (Sure, include the birthmarks, moles and tats)

Do you wear any specific colors, clothing, pins, jewelry and other accessories?

Do any habits give you away – humming, winking, whistling, tics, favorite sayings (gee whiz), pencil behind your ear, etc?

good old daysTHE GOOD OLD DAYS

Childhood, a time that holds memories both good and bad. Some repressed and some easily expressed. As you move through this section of your Bio, various things will pop into your mind – don’t ignore or edit them, let them be. Perhaps smells, tastes and sounds will trigger further thoughts about where you come from – let them, encourage them, record them. Don’t be afraid to come back to this section and add memories as they occur – this is who you are!

What do you know about your birth?

Do you have any knowledge about your mother’s pregnancy and the first few days of your life?

When were you brought home, or were you born there? If you were born in a hospital, which one?

What was the name of the doctor, your birth weight, length and were there any challenges for you or your mother?

Do you know what your first word was?

What do you know about your personality as a very young child – can you check with your parents or siblings? Precocious, talkative, smiley, inquisitive, colicky, etc.

Do you know when you began walking, talking, potty trained and any stories of mischief you got into? This is your chance to add a little color and personality so readers get to know the real you.

IF YOU WERE ADOPTED, a section follows just for you because we’re special. Otherwise, that’s it for this week. You might want to revisit a few times over the next few days as more memories pop into you mind – and they will. Please tell friends about this Legacy Bio format and the fill-in-the-blanks process. They can get the updates automatically by subscribing to my website and can receive the pdf FREE of charge when the series is complete. Ok, now for you adoptees – move to the next section:

When were you told about your adoption, who told you, what did they tell you?

Do you know anything about your birth parents?

What do you know about your adoptive parents and how and why they decided to adopt you?  Do you know anything about when they brought you home? How old were you?

What else would you like to know?

Were there any reactions from family members about your arrival that you remember or heard about?

What unique challenges or opportunities presented themselves as a result of being adopted?

You may have additional information about your birth parents, place of birth, circumstances, maybe even hard information that you would like to record or add here. This is the time.

A little self promotion now: I was adopted too. I wrote a book about it called My Secret Mother that may be helpful for you or any birth parents who gave up a child for adoption. Information is here.

 

CREATING A GREAT LEGACY BIO: part 1

You’re not going to survive this life. I’m sure this does not come as a shock to you but what might be shocking is how little the people around you actually know about you. Just because you know your history, where you were born, went to school, childhood friends, hobbies, sports, travel, etc. does not mean that your spouse, children or grandchildren have the faintest clue. Now, many of you will say, like me, my kids have no interest in my history, but oh how wrong we are.

biographyTo put this into perspective, what do you know about your father or mother’s life story, how about your grandfather or grandmother? Where were they born, where did they go to school or work. Even if you have an idea of those answers, what kind of depth do you have in terms of what their dreams and hopes were? We all want to know where we come from and not just geographically. For most of us, it does not occur to search our roots until we ourselves start to confront our mortality and wouldn’t it be nice to be able to pick up an interesting, well thought out and organised biography of a loved one and learn who they were.

Now, let me set your first fear aside – no, you will not need to be a writer. Your second fear – no, you will not need to spend hours of struggle trying to assemble something that no one else is interested in. Over the next few weeks, I am going to put together a very easy format series of questions for you to answer that will result in exactly the kind of history that you would enjoy reading about your own parents and grandparents. By answering a few questions a week, in a short period of time and in an easy to create way, you will produce exactly the kind of biography that will be interesting and informative to help your own family and friends know the real you.

This part is really important: when this series is completed, I will make it available FREE of charge, in a PDF format, to all followers of this website. But you must be a follower to receive this for free. Yes, I will create a book in several formats, including hardcover once I finish and I don’t know what the cost will be yet. But, as a follower, you get it free. Now, you probably know other people who should create their own Legacy Bio or whose bio you would like to read. Please forward this to them through Facebook or by sending them an email telling them about this series and why you want them to sign up to this website and create their own Legacy Bio. There are simple buttons on this page to help you do this.  It’s easy to get this series sent directly to your email by entering your info in the top right hand corner and you won’t miss any sections in the weeks to come.

OK, let’s get started: simply grab a notebook and begin answering a few questions.

WHAT IS YOUR NAME?

DO YOU HAVE ANY NICK NAMES?

DID YOU HAVE ANY NICK NAMES AS A KID?

WHICH ONES DID YOU LIKE OR DISLIKE?

DID PEOPLE EVER CALL YOU NAMES YOU WERE HURT BY?

DID YOU EVER CHANGE YOUR NAME – WHAT WAS YOUR OTHER NAME?

HOW DID YOU GET YOUR NAME?

ARE YOU NAMED AFTER SOMEONE – WHO AND WHY?

WHAT NAME WOULD YOU HAVE CHOSEN FOR YOURSELF?

DO YOU THINK NAMES TELL PEOPLE SOMETHING ABOUT YOU – IF SO, WHAT?

And, one more easy section to get your BIO started:

YOUR CURRENT ADDRESS:

PREVIOUS ADDRESSES, CITIES, COUNTRIES AND APPROXIMATE TIME FRAMES:

CURRENT AGE:

HEIGHT:                           WEIGHT:

EYE COLOR:                    HAIR COLOR:

EMAIL:

PHONE:

WEBSITE:

Congratulations. That’s it for this week – not so hard was it? You might choose to record this info in an ongoing Word document or some sort of notebook program instead of a hand written format – whatever makes sense for you works. Heck, you may want to create a video and simply use this format as an outline for recording who you are.

If you haven’t already, make sure to sign up for the updates by subscribing to this website in the upper right hand corner and pass it along to others who would benefit from creating their own Legacy Bio. See you next time.

And yes, I know that you are creating an AUTObiography but it will be a biography for the people who read about you later and one that you control.

 

WHAT DO YOU DO?

How many times have you answered the question, “what do you do?” or how many times have you asked the same question and fallen asleep with the answer? Yesterday, I caught a snippet of a presentation that got me thinking. Oh oh you say, we are in trouble now. When someone asks you, “what do you do?” it is usually a conversation filler and answering “what” can be a conversation stopper instead of the opening to an interesting possibility for both participants.do for a living

Instead of answering “what,” try answering “why.” Answering WHY you do something reveals an important fact about yourself giving the questioner an opportunity to explore your passion. Passion would be a great way to start your answer, as in, “I am passionate about finding family homes for people that will significantly increase in value in a short period of time.” Instead of, “I’m a realtor for Remax.”

“I get huge satisfaction from growing heirloom roses and entering them in flower competitions.” “I love watching people, who never thought they could do it, write their first book.” “I get a real kick out of seeing companies increase their bottom line profits by making a small change in their operating procedure.” ” I get a real sense of joy by explaining complex tax matters to people that helps them save money.”

I’m sure you can do better with your answer after a little bit of thought and some trial and error. We have all heard how it is a good idea to have a 30 second elevator pitch ready to answer the question of WHAT you do, but try answering and creating that 30 seconds based on WHY you do what you do. See if it starts a conversation rather than closing it.

So, here’s something I’m really excited about. I will start a new series of blogs next week that will run through the next couple of months that will make a difference, not only in your life, but the lives of your children and grandchildren. Intrigued? If you have ever read the “About” section of this website, you will know that I like learning something that sounds complex and making it understandable for other people. Yep, shoulda been a teacher. I will put together a series of presentations that will allow you to create a legacy that is unique, valuable, wanted, and easy through a step-by-step process that will take only a few minutes each week. And at the end of the series, there will be a free gift for any followers of this website. Sign up now to receive the contents via email and get something for nothing. Great pitch huh?

OK, I will give you all the WHY’S and WHAT’S next week and in the meantime, try answering this week’s question a little differently and let us know what happens.