I’m just sayin’:

I absolutely applaud and respect the many marchers around the world yesterday (January 21/17). Numbering in the millions, on a global basis, it shows solidarity for the rights of women, the underprivileged, disabled, downtrodden, and people in general while firing a warning shot across the bow of the Trump administration that they mess with the populace at their own risk. Displays of public demonstration are useful, create a connection and have given the people a vehicle to protest actions and inaction’s by leadership far and wide, however…if the money that was spent on airfares, hotels, food, parking, buses, gas, signage, media coverage, etc. in the hopes of attracting the attention of someone who wasn’t listening had been used to promote access to education for women in repressed regions of the world – what real change could have been accomplished? I’m just sayin’.

Quote I’m pondering again:

Good intentions are not a substitute for good actions

Funniest thing I’ve read this week:

These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts and are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and published by court reporters that had the torment of staying calm while the exchanges were taking place.
ATTORNEY: What was the first thing your husband said to you that morning?
WITNESS: He said, ‘Where am I, Cathy?’
ATTORNEY: And why did that upset you?
WITNESS: My name is Susan!
ATTORNEY: What gear were you in at the moment of the impact?
WITNESS: Gucci sweats and Reeboks.
ATTORNEY: Are you sexually active?
WITNESS: No, I just lie there.
ATTORNEY: What is your date of birth?
WITNESS: July 18th.
ATTORNEY: What year?
WITNESS: Every year.
ATTORNEY: How old is your son, the one living with you?
WITNESS: Thirty-eight or thirty-five, I can’t remember which.
ATTORNEY: How long has he lived with you?
WITNESS: Forty-five years.
ATTORNEY: This myasthenia gravis, does it affect your memory at all?
ATTORNEY: And in what ways does it affect your memory?
WITNESS: I forget..
ATTORNEY: You forget? Can you give us an example of something you forgot?
ATTORNEY: Now doctor, isn’t it true that when a person dies in his sleep, he doesn’t know about it until the next morning?
WITNESS: Did you actually pass the bar exam?
ATTORNEY: The youngest son, the 20-year-old, how old is he?
WITNESS: He’s 20, much like your IQ.
ATTORNEY: Were you present when your picture was taken?
WITNESS: Are you shitting me?
ATTORNEY: So the date of conception (of the baby) was August 8th?
ATTORNEY: And what were you doing at that time?
WITNESS: Getting laid
____________________________________________ATTORNEY: She had three children , right?
ATTORNEY: How many were boys?
ATTORNEY: Were there any girls?
WITNESS: Your Honor, I think I need a different attorney. Can I get a new attorney?
ATTORNEY: How was your first marriage terminated?
WITNESS: By death..
ATTORNEY: And by whose death was it terminated?
WITNESS: Take a guess.
___________________________________________ATTORNEY: Can you describe the individual?
WITNESS: He was about medium height and had a beard
ATTORNEY: Was this a male or a female?
WITNESS: Unless the Circus was in town I’m going with male.
ATTORNEY: Is your appearance here this morning pursuant to a deposition notice which I sent to your attorney?
WITNESS: No, this is how I dress when I go to work.
ATTORNEY: Doctor , how many of your autopsies have you performed on dead people?
WITNESS: All of them. The live ones put up too much of a fight.
ATTORNEY: ALL your responses MUST be oral, OK? What school did you go to?
ATTORNEY: Do you recall the time that you examined the body?
WITNESS: The autopsy started around 8:30 PM
ATTORNEY: And Mr. Denton was dead at the time?
WITNESS: If not, he was by the time I finished.
ATTORNEY: Are you qualified to give a urine sample?
WITNESS: Are you qualified to ask that question?

And last:

ATTORNEY: Doctor, before you performed the autopsy, did you check for a pulse?
ATTORNEY: Did you check for blood pressure?
ATTORNEY: Did you check for breathing?
ATTORNEY: So, then it is possible that the patient was alive when you began the autopsy?
ATTORNEY: How can you be so sure, Doctor?
WITNESS: Because his brain was sitting on my desk in a jar.
ATTORNEY: I see, but could the patient have still been alive, nevertheless?
WITNESS: Yes, it is possible that he could have been alive and practicing law.

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Thanks James Pierson.


Is anyone else getting sick and tired of being told how to think, dress, vote, work, eat, play and generally live our lives? The whole world seems to be about nothing other than entertainment these days and that includes newscasts, political leaders and important issues on the health and well-being of our planet.

I, for one, am tired of pretty boy/ bad boy politicians telling us what is right and wrong and then doing the opposite themselves. Where is the policy, where is the vision – there isn’t any! They get elected on looks. They get elected on making outrageous and truth defying statements about their competition. And – they are not held accountable by the electorate and certainly not by the media.

I am really tired of the media giving us opinion instead of facts and letting us form our own opinions. I am old (and grumpy) enough to remember when news on radio, TV and in the papers was there to inform, not convince us. There was a code that insisted on presenting information in a fair, unbiased and objective fashion – now it is just so much entertainment fluff. What was she wearing, how was her hair, look at his skin tone, he is so photogenic – or not. Is anyone else tired and fed up with this crap?

Celebrities – OMG!!! How in God’s green earth do celebrities have the license to comment on anything that will gather them a few more eyeballs without any subject knowledge whatsoever? If I want to know how to dress-up and put on makeup while playing make believe, I will contact a Hollywood celebrity for advice. They are being given huge platforms for expressing opinion based on what – their connection with politicians and media. The herd instinct in Hollywood is rampant with misinformation, conjecture and political correctness and, “please do not confuse me with the facts.”

Integrity seems to be a word long lost in the realms of politics, media and Hollywood. Do we not realize that they insult our intelligence by listening to their diatribes on issues that contain very little fact and mostly social media savvy sound bites? We the people, we the electorate, we the consumer have a responsibility to look beyond this claptrap and find solid facts and information and then make voting and purchasing decisions based on our own opinions, not those of some polished, well coiffed talking-head on TV.

We need to look beyond the obvious and easy in order to find the truth – apparently no one else is doing it for us.  Let’s take back our power over own lives. Let’s accept the responsibility of doing what’s right rather than what we are told. Stop letting other people do our thinking for us. Yes, I am afraid that we are the ones that have allowed the unholy trinity of politicians, media and Hollywood to lead our decision making – STOP! THINK! ACT!

It is long past time to open our eyes to the manipulation foisted upon us by the terrible triumvirate and recreate a world with less pixie dust and more truth. It will require us to think for ourselves, be more cynical about what we see, hear and read, consider the sources and follow our own intuition and research about what is true or false.

Thank you – I feel much better now. Let’s hope that my mood brightens in the week to come.


truth or consequencesDo you ever find yourself telling people what they WANT to hear rather than what they NEED to hear? Are you ever on the receiving end of that statement and being told what the speaker WANTS you to hear rather than the truth you NEED to know?
The other day I had to tell someone that a cheque for $62,000.00 they were anticipating would take 18 weeks to process. The work to approve this amount had been done but the checks and balances system, the layers of bureaucracy needed to make the money appear in his bank account, would take an additional 18 weeks! I didn’t want to tell him. I totally expected him to go nuts on me and why shouldn’t he? After a heavy sigh, he said that he appreciated my honesty because he had been told numerous times that the money would be available “soon.” At least knowing the truth would allow him to make his own plans accordingly, whether it was the answer he liked or not. He actually sent a note of appreciation for my honesty – not what I expected at all while I was summoning the courage to tell him.
I was chatting with my neighbour yesterday about something similar as he and his family endure the wonders of a home reno and struggle with the same issue. He was told that the work would be completed in April, and then May, and then June, and for sure, mid July. The latest is mid August. Meanwhile they are living in their basement, eating most meals at restaurants and trying to contain their anger. The truth is not setting him free.
I feel that, politically, we are facing this issue all the time – we are being told what the speaker thinks we want to hear rather than what we need to hear. Every political campaign is full of platitudes, over simplifications, trust-me-I’ll-fix-its, fear-mongering, exaggerations, and promises we could never afford in a million years. Whose fault is it – does it really matter?2+2=5

To a very great extent we all must accept responsibility for allowing people to over promise and under deliver. Every time we “go nuts” when someone gives us information that is different than what we want, we encourage them to alter their story so they don’t have to disappoint us. Sure it’s not totally our fault – some people are simply dishonest or afraid to present the truth. They are fearful that they will lose our business, our friendship or our vote. Naturally, we don’t need to accept poor service, inadequate workmanship or a lack of caring about our needs but on the other hand, we do need to exercise a bit of understanding and common sense about limitations that may prevent us from receiving instant gratification.

Right now, the political landscape seems to be overrun by people promising the impossible and the impractical, offering solutions that appeal to the fear in us rather than the ambition and courage and willingness to extend a helping hand. Instead of having us step UP into a better world, they would have us step DOWN into a quagmire of mediocrity, anger and resentment. If this disappoints us, then we need to look inside to see if we do the same thing in our own life. Are we afraid to disappoint the people around us and so adjust our story as a parent, spouse, salesperson, contractor, medical professional, teacher, coach, and friend and offer what the other person WANTS to hear instead of what they NEED to hear?MORE TRUTH

If we expect better leadership then it starts with us by being willing to hear the difficult, disappointing and unpopular realities with a degree of understanding and common sense and yes, maybe even a sense of humour. It is a two way street – to hear the truth, we must be willing to speak the truth, or suffer the consequences of disappointment and worse. It’s never easy to tell someone that they are going to be unhappy with the answer but the courage to do so is what makes us all human. It is time for each of us to do what we can in our own lives so that we can expect the same honesty in our business and political lives. Let’s stop being fooled by fear mongering, scare tactics, over-promising and letting people tell us what they think we WANT to hear instead of what we NEED to hear to make better decisions, live better lives and go forward with a sense of joy and peace.