FINDING THE TIME

Time seems to be a subject that keeps finding me this week. I read a brief article about how one of society’s biggest challenges is not having enough time in our days and so I began thinking ( I know, a dangerous situation). Whether we are baby boomers or young couples with growing children, time is an element we all struggle with. Something connected popped up when I saw a video about how to create an extra 15 minutes per day to do with what you will. How do you do this you ask? I think it’s pretty simple; either set your alarm 15 minutes earlier or…and I witness this every day, get up when your alarm goes off. So many people that I sleep with (that was supposed to be funny) set their alarm and hit the snooze button and then simply lie there listening to the radio prattle on while pretending to get a few more minutes of rest. What could be more un-restful than snooze alerts and radio voices. Constantly tossing to try and get a few more ZZZZ’s and knowing the end is near – yuck. OK, so the method of finding 15 more minutes is easy – get out of bed, but to me, the bigger issue is now that you have created an extra 15 minutes – what do you do with it?

So, I started with a list of things NOT TO DO. No TV, no email and no social media – my gawd how will you survive??? Keep going dear reader, the answer awaits. My friend Howard Parsons, The Reinvention Equation, would highly recommend meditation and what a change that would create in your life – incredible. But there are also other pursuits like some stretching or yoga that would produce positive results in your life, too. Some of us might use the time to write – aha! Would that make a difference in the world?

BOOMER TUNES ALERT

While driving home the other night, this song came on the radio and it’s one of the greatest party songs of all time. As I was singing along I realized that, other than the chorus, I have no idea what the lyrics are and I doubt that you or anyone else (including the band) does either. I googled the lyrics when I got home and they make no sense but that does not diminish the greatest party tune ever. Give it a listen and I know that Bruce Mazur and I could still sing the hell out of the chorus, couldn’t we Maze? Come back afterwards for more thoughts on time.

Louie Louie

 Just before you started dancing and singing I was talking about how to make use of your extra 15 minutes and how you can use it to make a difference in the world. Regular readers of this corner will remember the series of posts that I did about creating the story of your life – your Legacy Bio. Yes, you could use your 15 minutes to start working on that. Think that creating and sharing your story would not make a difference in the world? You would be so wrong. I promise that creating your story will change your life and the lives of your family and friends. Want proof?

Jillian Lee is a mother, wife, library manager, and a very talented filmmaker. In addition to that, she is one of the most courageous persons I know. She has spent much of her time telling the stories of others and has now decided that she must share her own story as well. As followers of this blog, you know how I feel about the importance of recording your story. You know that it will bring completion to your life in addition to the possibility of offering so much more than mere cold facts to your family and friends. I generally talk about writing your life story but there other ways to do it and other reasons to do it too. Sometimes there are parts of our lives that we need to face that become cathartic when revealed and allow us to heal ourselves. That takes tremendous courage and even more so when you are brave enough to let it help others by “putting it our there.”

To see and hear courage in action, I suggest that you view Jillian’s YouTube video and subscribe to her channel for updates. It may inspire your next step to offering your own life story for your benefit and the opportunity to make a difference to those you love.

Jillian Lee

And finally, time sometimes creates a sadness and loss for us. This past week, a friend from Winnipeg of almost 40 years passed away. Pat Pinchin suffered a serious heath issue for many years but I can honestly say that I never once saw her without a smile on her face. I’m sure there were moments when physical pain took a toll on her but she suffered in private and never let it affect her friends. RIP Pat and much strength and peace to Rick and Jeffrey.

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BABY BOOMERS REINVENTED

According to a local radio station, people who listen to 70’s and 80’s music tend to set their car volume higher than other drivers (and tend to open the roof more often too!). And that brings me to the subject of Baby Boomers. An important new book has come on the scene and I have just finished reading it – you should too.

The Reinvention Equation: A boomer’s Guide to a Reinvented Life by Howard Parsons was released a week ago and I just finished reading it. It’s very easy to give this book a 5 star rating and I have done so on Amazon. As baby boomers, we have witnessed unprecedented and seismic shifts in virtually every aspect of life. The word “technology” didn’t exist when we were kids and look at how it rules every aspect of our lives today. When I was pre-teen, the closest we came to being a techno wiz occurred when we removed the glass tubes from those old wooden radios and went to a store to test them and see if they needed replacing. Communications (other than the sound of our mother’s voice when it was time to come in for dinner) consisted of stretching a piece of copper wire from the back of that same radio, across our bedrooms to a window in the hopes of picking up the rock and roll stations in New York or Chicago to listen to the Big Bopper or Buddy Holly late at night – yep, I’m older than dirt apparently.

We seem to enjoy all those little quizzes on Facebook that demonstrate our advanced years by remembering things like party lines, fountain pens, spankings and various and sundry other nonsense to show our advancing years. But there are some things that have happened to many of us that remain inside and are rarely bragged about. Most of us were sold a bill of goods about how wonderful our lives would be if we just purchased some magic elixir that promised good health, worked for the same company until retirement, remained in a relationship, raised kids, took 2 weeks vacation, bought the right insurance policy, and on and on and on. Sure, some people have created a retirement of travel, good health, great friends, enough money, peace of mind, and everything that we were promised but what about the huge majority for whom this didn’t happen?

What about those people who worked for a company or organization for 35 years only to see it close down due to the aforementioned technology changes? What about those people who sacrificed to put their children through university, care for their own aging parents and now find themselves, at age 65, without the financial means to ride off into the retirement sunset? What about those people who take a look at their current life and say, “is that all there is?”

In the Reinvention EquationMr. Parsons uses the examples in his own life, and the lives of his clients, to illustrate the need to make changes from the inside out. If, like the majority of us, you have not reached nirvana, have not accomplished everything you expected, have not achieved the dream that was promised and expected, there is still a way to find the life that you so richly deserve. In the book, the author shows us, step by step, the process, the thinking, the road map to bringing the dreams we hold sacred and in our essential selves into reality. We find practical advice for looking inside to discover who we really are and how to move from that deeply felt truth to live a life of fulfillment and meaning.

Many of us have had to adapt to the changing conditions of the outside world but doing so has caused us to deny the deeply held essence of our true natures. So much so, that in many cases we have completely lost touch with who we really are. Glimmers of these truths reach the surface from time to time to frustrate and confuse us but Mr. Parsons presents a road map to help us find the meaning and truth in our lives. Combining newly discovered brain science and mixing this knowledge with fundamental principles of change, Mr. Parsons presents a compelling methodology for reinvention and deep, permanent, soulful acceptance of who we truly were meant to be.

This is a must read for any baby boomer who wants to awaken to their true nature and achieve a level of personal success that rises above the mundane and reaches for a connection to their hidden spirit thus allowing their true nature the freedom of expression to fulfill a destiny that, until now, they could only long for.

You can access information on the various formats of the The Reinvention Equation here.

CREATING A LEGACY BIO part 19

The story of your life is your opportunity to set the record straight. It is a legacy that will be cherished by its readers, an invaluable addition to your family tree and a personal history that clarifies your place in time and space. These 20 templates may seem daunting to some and incredibly skimpy to others when it comes to presenting your autobiography but you can choose how you approach the subject of YOU. Fill in all of the blanks, some of the blanks, or expand to capture the other details of your life not covered here. We will spend some time in the final segment looking at various options for creating the physical Legacy Bio and how and when to share it with others.

Life is full of moments, some good, some bad, some embarrassing, and a few that are inexplicable. There are moments of strength and courage and a few that we would take back if we could. Following is a list of prompts to show some of those moments in your life. You may want to use one word answers but it is far more fun if you include an explanation:

Did you ever:

steal something

appear nude – on purpose

have to go to the emergency room

tell off an authority figure (teacher, boss, policeman, customs agent, etc.)

fail a grade

skip a grade

find yourself giggling uncontrollably at a funeral or wedding

appear on TV

pick something up from the floor and eat it

pretend you were someone else

hitchhike

skinny dip (who with)

pray for a miracle

witness a miracle

break a bone

bungee jump

swim with sharks

pet a dangerous animal

shoot a gun

risk your life to save someone else

join any cults or weird organizations

meet someone really famous

hit on someone you shouldn’t have

run away from home

Have you ever been told that you have an exact “double”? Is there someone out there travelling the world who is a duplicate of you?

Let’s suppose that you could clone yourself – would you?

If you created a clone, what characteristics would they have, what strengths, life goals, successes, or challenges would they have?

If you had an “evil twin,” describe who they would be, what they would do and what their life would be like. Have you ever been tempted to live that “evil twin” life yourself?

If you could see 5 years into the future – would you do it?

What would you want to know?

What would you NOT want to know?

We are rapidly coming to the end of our personal memoir templates – one more next week. If you were to set aside one hour per week to complete this project, you would be creating a valuable, interesting and story of your life to be shared with the many people who are interested in your life and times. What an unselfish act of love that your are creating. If you decide to share and assist someone else in creating their own Legacy Bio, not only will they be forever grateful, so will their family and friends. What a wonderful thing you would be doing for someone else. As you position your own life within the context of the history that has happened around you, you bring a personal connection for the reader that cannot be found in any other way. Just do it!